It is now apparent that I am incapable of having a normal relationship with anyone that I know. I mean, friendships, romantic relationships, work relationships. I am obvious socially inept. I think that the only friendships I can maintain are those where I only speak to the person once every few months.
I KNOW drinking doesn't help shit, but GD. I don't know how being drunk leads to this.
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I don't know if this is true. Perhaps you suffer from the same malady I do, expecting people to be more decent then they really.
I'll let you in on a secret-I don't think most people have many great friends. Most, I would venture, like Timon of Athens, only think they do, but in fact they are surrounded by others who use them to various ends (social contacts, ego boosting, etc). In reality, I think those of us who have at least 2 or 3 really good friends, the type of friend who would go to Hell to battle the Devil armed with only a spatula on your behalf, we are very very lucky.
It can take time to find these kinds of friends. Most of mine I didn't mean until long after grad school, after my engagement fell through. I was amazed how many people I helped, vanished when suddenly I fell on hard times.
Now I cut people off pretty fast these days if they don't give as much support as they get. Some say it's a more lonely existence, but I would rather only really good friends than a crowd of users disguised as friends.
Jesus. Bunni's got Timon of Athens references and the best I can do is sing you both a round of "Nobody Knows You When You're Down and Out" (I prefer the Otis Redding version to BB king).
Actually, now that he's queued up on the iTunes I think I'll hang out awhile and let Otis sing me the blues.
It seems the older I get, the easier it is to spot the flakes and traitors. And I am totally with you, Bunni.
I also prefer Otis to BB on that song! Thanks, now I am going to download it.
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